Hello WordPress.com! This is my very first post. Starting this blog was inspired by my dearest mother’s day-to-day life positive thinking and attitude and her genuine teachings of life lessons and of course life experiences, lows and downs… and Im hoping something good and positive comes out from my blogging!! 😀 I guess, by now, all of us, everyone is looking for happiness.
But Happiness is not a goal. It is a result of doing what we like and relating honestly to other people.
Happiness is about being our own person, making our own decisions, doing what we want because we want to do it, and living our own lives to please ourselves. It’s about being independent, allowing others to be free, and seeking the best in ourselves and in the world.
It’s so easy to do the opposite – to cling to others expecting to be taken care of, to control people and blame them when things go wrong, to be insincere and play at relationships and careers rather than commit, to tease rather than respond, and to live on the fringe of others’ lives rather than in the middle of our own.
When we do not live our lives as our own person, we live an unhappy life indeed. We have the sense that our lives are going nowhere, that life has little meaning, and that the meaning it does have loses its substance when we examine it closely.
Our lives are supposed to be for ourselves.
Our lives are given to us to create its meaning. We have no one to blame if our lives does not turn out the way we wanted it to be. No one owed us anything. We are the only persons who can make a lasting difference. A little boost of support here or there means nothing unless we have committed to go all the way ourselves, no matter what happens.
No promises that anyone ever made to us have the power to make a lasting difference.
No betrayal or abandonment has the power to limit our growth or blunt our successes unless we need an excuse for failing that badly.
Putting it bluntly, we all have the ability to get over just about everything. And if we intend to be happy during this life we are going to have to get over a lot all the time.
The first thing we have to get over is the belief that someone is coming in our lives who is going to make all the difference.
Don’t count on anyone coming to rescue you, give you the big break, defeat your enemies, stand up for you, recognize your worth, and open doors.
Either we are the savior in our own lives or our lives are without redemption.
We all deserve to be happy. You deserve to be happy, but you also deserve everything that you accept. So look at your unhappiness. It is a record of your failure to be your own person.
Our unhappiness is really nothing more than a reminder that we have some work to do to be happy again.
Because being happy is liking the way we feel; if we are unhappy it means that we don’t like the way we feel.
We are the persons who are supposed to do something about that.
Being happy requires that we take subtle but important risks all the time.
We need to assert ourselves. Avoid manipulation, pointless arguments, and confrontations.
We need to tell the truth and correct our lies.
We need to stop playing the victims so we can enjoy our successes without feeling guilty.
To find happiness we need to be our own persons, not a pretender.
We need to let go of our expectations of what we think life should be like so that we don’t unrealistically judge others and find them lacking and ungiving.
We need to give up living in the past.
We need to learn to forgive and to let go in order to move on.
We need to learn to listen in order to bring out the best in others.
We need to take ourselves seriously, but not so seriously that we have to be perfect all the time or cannot admit our errors or weakness.
We need to understand that we are always growing. So we must continually be aware of the compromises that inhibit our growth and the relationships where we feel we give away too much.
We need a purpose in life.
We need to work at that purpose and create the lives we want, not live in empty hopes of deliverance.
Being happy takes work, the work of life. Since we are going to live our own lives, we might as well live it ass our best.
Being happy is understanding and accepting ourselves as we are right now.
That is the only true freedom.
This, the only time to achieve it.
You, the only person who can do it!!